10 Behaviors That Seem Like Strength But Are Actually Trauma Responses 1?? You avoid asking for help, believing you must handle everything alone. 2?? You suppress your emotions, thinking vulnerability is a sign of weakness. 3?? You take on everything yourself because trusting others feels risky. 4?? You prioritize keeping the peace, even at the cost of your own voice. 5?? You hide your struggles, convinced no one would understand or care. 6?? You put others' needs above your own, often at your own expense. 7?? You chase perfection to avoid criticism or rejection. 8?? You say, "I'm fine," even when you're overwhelmed or in pain. 9?? You struggle to set boundaries, fearing it will make others upset. ? You feel uneasy when receiving love or kindness, unsure if it's genuine. . . @the.holistic.psychologist @mansitherapy @the.trauma.educator . . #TraumaHealing #HealingJourney #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthAwareness #InnerWork #SelfGrowth #TraumaResponses #HealingFromTrauma #ShadowWork #PersonalDevelopment #EmotionalHealing #TherapyWorks #MindsetShift #BreakingGenerationalTrauma #SelfAwareness #CPTSDRecovery #HealingTrauma #SelfLoveJourney #NervousSystemHealing #HealingIsPossible #MindfulLiving #MentalHealthMatters #SelfCareDaily #HolisticHealing #EmotionalResilience #YouAreNotAlone #WellnessCommunity #TherapyIsCool #GrowthMindset #healingonboard

We all hit moments where life feels like it's standing still. You may feel stuck, unsure of what to do next, or like you're just going through the motions. It's a frustrating place to be, but remember, it's also a temporary phase. The key is not to stay in that stuck feeling. Start by acknowledging your emotions. It's okay to feel lost sometimes - it doesn't mean you've failed. Once you allow yourself to feel, begin reflecting on what's truly important to you. Reconnect with your goals, values, and passions. Next, break the situation down. Big changes can feel overwhelming, so focus on small, manageable steps that will lead you toward a clearer path. It's about progress, not perfection. And finally, remember that you don't have to do it alone. Seek support from friends, family, or a mentor who can offer perspective and guidance. Change starts within, but sometimes, it helps to talk it through with someone who gets it. Don't give up. You've overcome obstacles before, and you have the strength to keep moving forward, no matter how stuck you feel right now. Take it one step at a time. . . #HealingJourney #GrowthMindset #KeepGoing #YouGotThis #SelfImprovement #MindsetMatters #EmotionalWellness #PersonalGrowth #LifePurpose #SmallStepsBigChanges #BreakThrough #SelfDiscovery #InnerStrength #FindYourWay #OneStepAtATime

Our emotions don't just stay in our minds-they influence our entire body, from the brain to the heart to the immune system. Children are especially sensitive to their parents' emotional states, which can impact their stress levels and even physical health. Studies show that parental stress and conflict can contribute to conditions like asthma. A nurturing, peaceful environment supports a child's well-being. Healing starts within and flows to those we love. . . #MindBodySoul #EmotionalHealth #HolisticHealing #ParentingAwareness #Neuroscience #MindfulParenting #HealthIsWealth #Interconnected #ChildWellbeing #HealingStartsWithin #MentalHealthAwareness #healingonboard

Here are a few situations where focusing on or changing your breathing may not help during a trauma response: - Panic Attacks* ?: Breathing heavily can lead to hyperventilation, reducing carbon dioxide levels in your body. Deep breaths may worsen it, making you feel lightheaded. ? Deep breathing is counterproductive when hyperventilating.   - Unsafe Body Focus* ?: For some trauma survivors, focusing on the body feels unsafe, especially after medical trauma, sexual assault, or dissociation. ? If connecting with your body is overwhelming, try safer coping strategies instead.   - Self-Judgment* ?: Judging yourself for not breathing "correctly" can intensify anxiety or panic. ? Instead of focusing on the breath, explore alternative coping strategies.   - Inability to Breathe* ?: Struggling with breathing techniques due to medical issues, lack of practice, or uncertainty? ? Remember, other strategies exist to manage trauma responses without focusing on your breath. . . #TraumaHealing ? #MentalHealthAwareness ? #CopingStrategies ? #EmotionalWellness ? #AnxietyRelief ? #TraumaRecovery ? #MindBodyConnection ? #SelfCareTips ? #PanicAttackSupport ? #HealingJourney ?? #StressManagement ?? #SelfCompassion ? #EmotionalResilience ? #InnerHealing ?#healingonboard

When you grow up in a family where conflict was the norm, you often carry the weight into adulthood-struggling with trust, boundaries, and inner peace. But healing is possible, and you have the power to break the cycle. It's time to reclaim your story and create a life of balance and connection. ?? #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #InnerPeace #SelfHealing #BreakingCycles #EmotionalWellness #MentalHealthMatters #HealthyBoundaries #SelfGrowth #HealingIsPossible #healingonboard

Isn't therapy just about talking? ? While conversation is a key element, therapy goes far beyond just words. It's a safe space for exploration, healing, and self-discovery. It's about understanding your emotions, breaking down barriers, and learning to cope with life's challenges. Therapy empowers you to reflect on your thoughts and behaviors, fostering personal growth and resilience. So, let's embrace the journey of self-improvement together-because sometimes, the most profound changes happen when we dig deeper than just talking. ?? #MentalHealthMatters #TherapyJourney

Sometimes, we don't realize how our actions affect those we love. Let's explore some common behaviors that can unintentionally harm our relationships. . . #RelationshipsMatter #EmotionalAwareness #MindfulActions #ImpactOnRelationships #LoveAndUnderstanding #HealthyConnections #RelationshipGrowth #EmpathyInAction #StrengthenBonds #HealingRelationships #healingonboard

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? Growing up in an abusive family can leave deep scars, but remind yourself -and everyone else who needs to hear it-that it's okay to feel the way you do. It's okay to acknowledge the pain and confusion that comes from a childhood filled with fear and uncertainty.  "I promise to honor my journey, no matter how difficult it may seem. Healing is not linear, and there will be days when the weight of the past feels heavy. But I'm learning that it's okay to take my time. It's okay to seek help and lean on others when I need support." So here's to all of us who carry the weight of our pasts: it's okay to feel lost sometimes, but it's also okay to rise above it. We are stronger than we realize, and with each step forward, we reclaim our power. Let's continue this journey together, knowing that healing is possible and brighter days are ahead. ?? #HealingJourney #YouAreNotAlone"

Health anxiety" can often feel like an overwhelming storm, where every ache, twinge, or worry spirals into a whirlwind of fear. It's easy to feel isolated in this struggle, as if no one else understands the constant loop of 'what ifs' that play in your mind. But remember, you are not alone on this journey. It's okay to acknowledge your feelings and seek support when the weight feels heavy. Taking small steps towards self-compassion can make a world of difference. Whether it's talking to a friend, practicing mindfulness, or simply allowing yourself to breathe, every effort counts. Let's embrace our feelings together and find solace in knowing that it's perfectly okay to seek help. You deserve peace and healing amidst the chaos. #HealthAnxiety #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfCompassion #YouAreNotAlone #HealingJourney #MindfulnessMatters #SeekSupport #EmbraceYourFeelings #AnxietySupport #InnerPeace #OvercomingFear #MentalHealthMatters #WellnessJourney #AnxietyHealing #SelfCareTips #healingonboard

Generational partners are more than just family quirks; they are the unique threads that weave our stories together! From the way we celebrate holidays to the traditions we pass down, these connections shape our identities and enrich our lives. ? ? In every family, there are those special traits and habits that define us-whether it's grandma's secret recipe, dad's knack for storytelling, or that quirky dance move that always makes everyone laugh. These aren't just quirks; they are reflections of love, resilience, and shared experiences across generations. ? Let's take a moment to appreciate these generational bonds! What's a trait or tradition from your family that you cherish? How has it influenced who you are today? Share your stories below! Together, let's celebrate the beautiful tapestry of our lives! ? #GenerationalPartners #FamilyTraditions #CherishedMemories #FamilyLove

Behind the facade of success lies a hidden struggle: the relentless pursuit of validation can lead to exhaustion and emptiness. As we chase achievements, we often sacrifice our well-being, driven by performance orientation, fear of failure, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. This journey reveals the dark side of overachievement-where the quest for recognition overshadows true fulfillment.

Are you a people pleaser? ?  In our latest videos, we explore the signs and roots of this common behavior.  Signs You Might Be a People Pleaser: - Agreeing even when you disagree - Over-apologizing for your feelings - Avoiding conflict at all costs - Struggling to say "no" - Never demanding what you need *Why Does This Happen?* Many people pleasers have faced criticism for their true opinions, leading to feelings of invalidation and misunderstanding. This can create a cycle where they prioritize others' approval over their own needs.. Join us as we unpack these behaviors and discuss how to break free from the need for approval, embrace authenticity, and prioritize self-care! ?? Let's start a conversation-share your thoughts or experiences below! ? #healingonboard  #PeoplePleasing #SelfDiscovery #MentalHealthAwareness #AuthenticityMatters

? Tuning Out: A Hidden Trauma Response ? Have you ever found yourself zoning out during a conversation, feeling like you're watching life from a distance? This is known as "tuning out," a common trauma response that many people experience. Here's what you need to know ?What It Is: Tuning out is a protective mechanism wherein the mind detaches itself from overwhelming emotions or stressful situations. It's like hitting the pause button and allowing you to escape reality when the feelings are too much to bear. ? Why This Happens: The human brain seeks refuge and security when confronted with the memory of trauma or fear. Tuning out is, in effect, a means of protection against an undesirable memory or sensation that develops a temporary safe haven. ? Signs You May Be Tuning Out: 1. You catch yourself daydreaming or staring off into space during conversations. 2. It would almost seem that you saw life, only you're unable to become a part of it. 3. Time slips away and you can hardly remember what happened within the day. ?? Remember: Healing is a journey, and it is okay to ask for support along the way. In acknowledging your responses to your trauma, you are brave enough to work toward your recovery.  You are not alone; support is always available to walk you on your journey toward wholeness. Silence upon answers to trauma should be broken and let us understand the same together.

The love, attention, and security only adults can offer liberates children from the need to make themselves invulnerable and restores to them that potential for life and adventure that can never come from risky activities, extreme sports, or drugs. Without that safety our children are forced to sacrifice their capacity to grow and mature psychologically, to enter into meaningful relationships, and to pursue their deepest and most powerful urges for self-expression. In the final anal-ysis, the flight from vulnerability is a flight from the self. If we do not hold our children close to us, the ultimate cost is the loss of their ability to hold on to their own truest selves. #healingonboard #healingjourney #mentalhealthawareness #traumarecovery #selfcare #resilience #childhoodtrauma #survivor #copingmechanisms

3 Books on Childhood Trauma Let us dive into the depths of three transformational books illuminating the nuances of childhood trauma. 1. "The Myth of Normal" by Gabor Maté aims to unpick popular but accepted notions of normality, pointing out how societal roles can be conduits for the transmission of trauma in children, dispelling the rationality about understanding mental health and wellness. 2. "No Bad Parts" by Richard Schwartz introduces the reader to the model of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and offers it in a gentle and compassionate approach, explaining how there are different parts of our psyche. Schwartz illustrates how all parts within us, even the apparently bad ones, contribute to our healing process. 3. "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk. The book seems to delve into complicated relationships about trauma and body integration. The scientist blends his scientific research with personal narratives that expose how trauma actually lives in the body and the pathways toward healing found through innovative therapies. Together, the books powerfully explore childhood trauma by giving hope and strategies for recovery. Whether a mental health provider, survivor, or simply interested in how trauma affects people, these readings are crucial to comprehend healing.

In the simple act of cutting bread, Kafka reveals the complex emotional landscape of parental relationships marked by abuse and neglect. The directive to cut 'straight' symbolizes the rigid expectations placed on children, creating an anxious environment where love feels conditional. The 'knife dripping with gravy' illustrates how nurturing can be tainted by emotional neglect, turning a caring gesture into one overshadowed by harshness. This evokes deep compassion for the child, navigating a world where affection is intertwined with disappointment. The emphasis on not letting 'scraps fall on the floor' highlights unspoken fears and emotional turmoil, symbolized by crumbs that represent unattainable standards and feelings of inadequacy. This reflection urges us to understand how these experiences shape emotional well-being. We must create environments of unconditional love, embracing imperfections and allowing individuals to feel valued for who they are. Ultimately, Kafka reminds us of the necessity for nurturing love that flows freely. Let's commit to breaking cycles of hurt, ensuring every child knows they are worthy of love simply for being themselves. ?? . . #Kafka #ParentalRelationships #EmotionalWellbeing #ChildhoodTrauma #UnconditionalLove #MentalHealthAwareness #Healing #Compassion #BreakingCycles #EmotionalNeglect #Understanding #LoveAndAcceptance #SelfWorth #Parenting #ChildDevelopment #LiteraryAnalysis #EmotionalIntelligence #Relationships #Nurturing #HealingJourney #healingonboard

Understanding what your triggers are, is deeply important for emotional wellness. Here is a closer examination of the five most common triggers that impact us daily: 1. ?Sound: Many sounds, such as screams or specific music, can have a very emotional impact or bring back memories, bringing the past in through the body's consciousness. 2. ?Smell : Smell is strongly associated with memory. A familiar smell from a perfume or food can bring back an important memory, good or bad. 3. ?Place: Sometimes places can have psychological effects. Returning to the spot of a tragic event may bring back those feelings of fear or anxiety. 4. ?People: This sometimes leaves one with fear or anxiety, especially when related to previous adverse experiences. 5. ?Touch: It also evokes extremely strong reactions. Something that is safe to feel when embraced warmly may be painful if not invited. Knowing these triggers will help you overcome them much better. You can be empowered by knowing what makes you tick to heal more effectively.

In a world where saying "yes" seems to be the rule, it's high time to reclaim your time and energy. Here are three power situations where setting boundaries is very key in keeping balance and having self-care: 1.Declining Extra Job Projects: When one's plate is already full, do not undertake added burdens such as extra jobs that probably will not pay off. Time and effort deserve value! 2.Ending Phone Calls politely to focus: If a conversation is pulling you away from your focus, wrap it up with kindness. Remember, time and mental clarity are essential! 3.Declining the Last-Minute Plans to focus on yourself: Life is too busy sometimes, and you have to take a moment for yourself. It's okay to decline spontaneous invitations in favor of nurturing your hobbies and self-care. You deserve that time! Setting boundaries isn't selfish; it is necessary for your health. Then go ahead and start practicing saying no, or no thank you, and see how that changes your life.

Growing up with emotionally immature parents can leave lasting impressions that shape the way we see ourselves and the world. From struggling to set boundaries to seeking constant validation, the effects can be subtle yet powerful. But recognizing these signs is the first step toward healing and growth. You are not defined by your past, and it's never too late to break free from patterns that no longer serve you. Let's raise awareness, share our stories, and support one another on the path to emotional maturity. ?? . . #EmotionalHealth #HealingJourney #BreakTheCycle #InnerChildWork #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfHealing #GenerationalHealing #EmotionalMaturity #ParentingMatters #healingonboard